A Few Random Thoughts and Updates

Rural school girl, San Augustine County, Texas (LOC)

1) There has been one more small change to Mrs. G's I Am A Derfwad Summer Tour 2012. Mrs. G. will be stopping one night in Seagrove, NC. You can find the updated schedule here.

2) If you are interested in being a Derfwad of the Week, please follow Caro's successful formula (include a photo and a few lines about yourself and your blog, though having a blog isn't a requirement) and send all the info to mrs.ggggggggggggggg @ gmail dot com. This would be particularly cool for those of you hosting derfwad gatherings in a few weeks -- it helps to see another familiar face in a sea of strangers if you are scared shitless of mingling with a sea of strangers.


Image from Daily Gratitude Challenge on Facebook 

3) Mrs. G. just read the above on her friend Barb's Facebook page. The sentiment and handwriting are a little SARKish for Mrs. G's taste, but for some reason this really struck Mrs. G, knocked her socks off even though she isn't wearing any. She knows many of us have things we want to do but are hampered by opportunity, nerve, finances, fear, initiative, skill and all the other things hampering hampers. How can we help each other overcome some of these obstacles (especially ourselves) and move forward? Can we brainstorm on this as a community? The hairs on the back of Mrs. G's are standing up, and since there isn't a rabid dog in the vicinity, this is usually a sign of some potentially really good shit in the making. Think on it, would you?

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Thanks! I'm taking that advice! I'm going to do something wonderful and exciting for my birthday that I always thought about but my old Self just never got up the nerve to do. Good luck to other Derfs!

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSmalltown Me

Mrs G, will you be having a send-off or happy return party in Seattle? maybe I missed that info. thank you for that facebook link. am thinking on it. . .

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAngAk

Happy return, I think.

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermrs. g.

I wish I knew how to un-hamper because if I did I would be un-hampering myself all over the place. I think with the gift of motherhood I was also gifted with a new and tremendous FEAR OF APPEARING FOOLISH. I was at one point a rather fearless bad ass and now I am scared to raise my hand and make a comment at the PTO meeting.

Tell me how to unchain my spirit and I'd do it in a heartbeat.

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterThe Other Laura

The Man likes to tease me and say at 30, my warranty expired. But something else did as well. My shy almost self absorbed insecurities about what other people think. I knew I was a good daughter, friend, wife, sister, and cousin but always was sooooooo self conscious about someone pointing out my failings (and there are many...) I don't know what exactly happened but I realized that the people who mattered to me would not care if I stepped out of my comfort zone and tried something new. And I have been reaching, growing and learning all over the place ever since. I realized one day that those insecurities had been keeping me from finding true joy in the things and people I enjoy. Was quite the revelation when I learned to let go of NO and say WHY NOT TRY?

Hope that's sort of what you were looking for...

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterbramble

you have already started me on the actualisation of one of my dreams with your mention of Stephen King's book on writing, which I'm now reading, which is helping me solidify my writing a little at present and a lot by the end of this week.
But yes, do these things.
I moved to Mexico on a whim so that I can improve my spanish whilst becoming a better teacher AND have random strange hours in which to write write write, with occasional pencil sketching.
Actually reaching for your dreams is terrifying though. But better than a life time of nothing special, surely.
If you give up your dreams, you die, that's what i learnt from Pretty Woman. It might just be true.

Peace out and get stretching everyone. baby steps, baby steps

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHerImperialMajesty

I had a thought about the problem/excuse/issue of not beign able to afford the time or money for the things we want to do. I am trying to identify what is the experience underneath the goal and find that in an affordable/near/doable dose.

Example....visit the louvre in Paris. Not attainable right now. So I want to make a date day with my husband, or alone, and turn off the phone, put my head in vacation mode, and visit my towns museums like I am a tourist. The whole day. Get a map and walk my downtown.

Can't afford that walking tour of Capri? How about a two day canoe trip?

Basically I am going to BE whatever it is I think I will be when I imagine these more exotic goals. I will BE that person right here, right now. I can be adventurous in my neighborhood, on my budget, in this body. I just gotta do it! No second guessing, just walk out that door tomorrow and start doing. Go to a record store and buy some vinyl. Laugh too much. Turn up the music. Get a cheap hula dancer for my dash board. Write a poem.

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermolly

Yeah, Molly! You've got the right idea...

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMainely Alaskan

Molly, well said! Been trying to do that consciously here over the last 6 months, when it was feeling like we'd NEVER find a way to get out of the city and live the woods like we've wanted to for years. The goal there being building a place where the door's always open, the coffee and wine flowing, and the accommodations cozy and cheap (or free). Funky treehouses, preferrably. Couldn't find a way, yet, so started renting out our front room here to a succession of travelers, rather than the year or two long deals we'd had in the past. People from all over the world, giving us some great new friends, lots of chances to exchange ideas over wine and coffee, and a taste of what we're hoping to build on a larger scale. Funny enough, the way to exit the city and get a bit of land has presented itself in the last 2 months, and the reality that it's actually going to happen has me equally terrified and excited. Always a good combo I think, means it's a good direction if I'm actually scared of it.
Thanks for putting it out there Mrs G., good way to start the discussion. I trip over myself all the time, and talk myself out of things. Like Bramble said, I used to be terrified of having my failings pointed out, but somewhere along the way I lost the ability to care quite so much. It takes energy away from actually doing stuff, doesn't it?

May 7, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterbethany

Bethany, your idea for a staying place sounds fabulous.

May 8, 2012 | Unregistered Commentertrash

Yea! Seagrove! I need to email you soon about getting NC people here.M

May 8, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermeredith@whynot

Molly, my husband just bought a cheap hula girl the dashboard at our local dollar store! I hated the idea but I think she is rather nice now. And solar-powered! :)


With Google Art Project you can virtually visit museums. The Louvre is not yet listed, but there are some other fabulous museums available to "visit".

As far as art, it sounds silly, be we love doing puzzles of famous works of art. We did one of the Sistine Chapel when we lived in Rome, and we appreciated visiting the Chapel even more afterwards because we had really studied it over the puzzle.

Even though I live overseas, I need to make more of an effort to see what is right around me. We all become complacent and figure "oh, I have time to do that later". I don't want to wait for later, I want to grab today to starting visiting, experiencing, and seeing more.

Thanks, Mrs. G for this thread.

May 8, 2012 | Unregistered Commentergretel

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