Thursday
Apr242014

Full Confessional Friday...With a Twist

Mrs. G. has noticed that many of us have issues that annoy or exhaust us and goals we are too fearful to even attempt to achieve. So, she decided this week that we each need to set a goal(s) that we will work hard to meet by Friday, May 23rd. That's four weeks to take a big or small step. And should you just think eh, she'll never know. Mrs. G. will find you and check in on your success. She has her ways. When she's not hooking, she's working part time at the NSA. No kidding, though, you can't dodge her. Don't freak out. Your goal can be as simple as changing the sheets.

Confess as always, but don't forget to set your goal(s). Let's do this for ourselves and each other.

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Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister.  

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This month I will get a physical and mammogram (or at least schedule both should the wait be longer than a month).

I will also share chapter one of the Women's Colony with readers.

April 24, 2014 | Registered CommenterMrs. G.

Do you mean Friday May 23rd or Saturday June 21st?


Friday, May 23rd! My son comes home in May and I think I am rushing life along!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered Commentersuburbancorrespondent

Can't wait for chapter one, Mrs. G!!!
My goal is to finally make an overdue dermatologist appointment. It's been too many years for this Arizona native, and I know some spots need to be checked.

Confession: a passive-aggressive colleague at work made a mistake. I think he's going to try to throw me under a bus for it, but I have a paper trail that covers my ass. This makes me happy.

Also. I've had a really nice first year at my job, having been a SAHM/homeschooler for 12 yrs while doing volunteer and small contract work, and the past two weeks have been particularly great. I still love going in every day. It's challenging, rewarding, and i really like it. And I really like the woman I work for. We make an awesome team.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterKellyK

I've been in a fairly vile mood for a few weeks. I'm having moments of happy here and there, but in general, blergggh.

Too much sad in my world -- really, in the worlds of those I love.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkate in MI

Confess? OH GOSH, thanks for putting up with me ya'lls...but I feel wicked cheerful and I canNOT even MAKEUP anything remotely nasty or salacious to confess. I mean, c'mon, Ithaca in SPRING!
Goal, and I mean it, express positivity. For example: I heard an expression today "you can't stop the wave but you can learn to surf" which is hilarious, but has that positive vibe which anybody can like and think about, rather than my usual, also hilarious, favorite expression: "sit by the river long enough and you will see the dead bodies of your enemies float past...". Tee hee! Alright, I am babbling, past my bedtime and all... I should sleep on it and maybe I can dream up something embarrassing AND humiliating to confess and work on ;)

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGary Edward Rith

Ditto, Kate in MI.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDorrie

I'm noticing that goals are not being set. No pressure. Actually PRESSURE. Come on floss or empty the dishwasher. I'm doing an experiment on the human domino effect.

April 24, 2014 | Registered CommenterMrs. G.

It's Friday? Really? Long day at work as the bossman had to go to his sister-in-law's funeral (after his mom-in-law's two weeks back, a week after his wife was fired - she and I are drinking wine next week and discussing) and found out we're supposed to be at JazzFest this weekend, not next. It's cool. Wonderful weekend just past with my sister and her partner, picking up pebbles (yeah, I went to New York State and brought home rocks). My goal - one of those pebbles is translucent, giving me ideas. I'm gonna get through a bunch of clay, and get my website up (actually started transferring the domain yesterday). I'm feeling the energy! Let's go, Mrs. G, we're gonna have fun!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered Commenternaomi d

Ok fine. GOAL.

I will contact at least THREE of my friends/acquaintances here locally about a business proposal I have. in the next couple weeks.

It's a good idea, and I think it will truly benefit them, their businesses, and myself. They are Becky, Yvette, and Rachel.

I'll keep you posted!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkate in MI

It's funny, I accomplished a lot of goals this week, which probably explains why I'm so exhausted....

So I will have the tomatoes in their pots by the 23rd of May AND I will have turned over/amended/fertilized the raised vegetable patch. I may do more than that, but since our last frost date is May 15, I can't commit, because weather trumps committment. Yes, it has snowed around the 23rd of May here before. Dead plants aren't much fun. I can commit to the tomatoes because they are protected by Wall O' Waters.

Confession....I think the worst part about being in the middle of a long-term stressful situation is that it stops carrying the immediacy of crisis, especially with other people. I'm trying to figure out how to say I still need support - not continually, but even though I'm doing other things and supporting others, it's not "done".

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterTC

Goal: I'm going to get the garden planted by then and it very well might kill me. But I'm going to.
Confession: I just was a jerk to D and he wants me to apologize, but I don't feel like it so I'm parked on the couch for the night, planning to sleep here and I DO NOT MIND A BIT.
Petty and mean-spirited, but I don't feel a lick of guilt or any reason to apologize. In fact, I keep saying, "I'm sorry...for interrupting this by walking through the room." I'm saying "I'm sorry" for everything except what he wants me to be sorry for. HA!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGreen Girl in Wisconsin

Goal: I will follow through and jump through the *$&$^#* hoops to get my long-overdue mammogram. Seriously, it's not that bad -- I just hate having to do all of their legwork in getting the previous films from the other side of the country.

The NSA now publishes questionable books and checks for morality on blogs? Ha!

Confession: I let my underage child try wine tonight. Good parenting or bad? Please discuss.

Goal: I will find a new doctor and schedule a physical by May 23rd.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterApril Anon

Oh KellyK I empathise with people trying to offload their mistakes. There's a lot of careering buses! Personal responsibility...that's where they admit a mistake, help fix it, and try to do better next time.

I've been doing a new job for 3 months. I've been checking compliance, ensuring maintenance of standards and putting out fires. As in spending a lot of time fixing mistakes, and handing complaints and problems.

Goal: By May 23rd I will move from reactive....to proactive. I have plans and initiatives....and I'm going to get them started!!!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDeborah J

Goal: get to the gym at least once. It's been about 1 and 1/2 years, so once is a good place to start.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterArli

My cholesterol and blood sugar are running high. Not healthy for a diabetic.
I have embarked on 90 days of Vegan Before 6 pm. I am low in the protein department.I am not a bean or tofu lover so my goal for the next 30 meat days is to get more non- meat protein in my diet and lose 4 more pounds.

Going to see my mom and hope to see my niece and her almost 4 year old daughter. Can't wait. The 4 year old is a pistol! love that kid.

Goal: get the table I'm decorating for my kid painted.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered Commenter1Les

I submitted my resignation at work effective May 22 last week:-) it's been a long time coming. I will be relocating to the Seattle area at the end of May/ early June. I need to develop a plan, but so many things are contingent on other things at this point, that it's hard to make an official plan. So that's my goal, to make a new plan, Stan, no more being coy, Roy, just listen to me! So watch out for me, Mrs.G!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDeb

Deb, I'm in the Seattle area too--let me know if I can help!

KellyK, I am verah, verah happy for you loving your work. That's what I want for all of us! You're proving it's a realistic goal.

Confession: My job is at a deadend. I can keep on doing what I'm doing and collect my check and benefits, but my boss has been very blunt about telling me I will never be cross trained, never offered a new skill, or ever considered for advancement in his department because--wait for it--that's "not how he sees me." So I am leaning out. Going through the motions while I spend my extra time cruising the net and planning a new home-based business. I'd be happy to spend this (and more) time for my employer, but my supervisor literally forbids it. On one hand I feel like I'm cheating my company by using their time to entertain myself (and this is SO not who I am), but on the other hand, what else am I supposed to do?

Goal: Dentist. Enough said.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterKristy

1) Dispose of all remaining Cadbury mini-egg candies ... managed this tonight - check!
2) Get daughter graduated from college - pending 5/3 /14
3) Get daughter's worldly belonging moved from college back to homestead ... pending
4) Get daughter shipped off to Spain as an au pair ... cringe
5) Remove in-operable vehicle from driveway (yes, I am in danger of being labeled a southern redneck) ... pending but it is my goal by 5/23/14 ...

I can do this by 5/23/14!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAnne in GA

April Anon ~ my parents allowed us sips of wine growing up, which made me feel it was no big deal. I simply saw it as a grown-up beverage. Therefore, I chose beer as my underage tool of rebellion...
Wine is something I still enjoy but almost never in excess because my parents set a good example. My dh and I have given sips to our children as well (most of the time they decline because they made the DARE promise in school) and it hasn't harmed them. The 2 that are now over 21 accept it from us only occasionally. There was one incident of a preschooler overly-enjoying sips at a Seder dinner but he now thinks it's nasty.

Goal: finish 2 pieces of artwork. One has been started - a request from a friend, in trade for some electrical work. The other has not been started, but is part if an intended graduation gift for my son's girlfriend.
We can do this!

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterBrenda J

My goal is to walk consistently 5 days a week for 20-30 minutes a day.

April 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDebbie in AZ

Ok. Goal : I will contact three dear friends whom I have let without news for too long. Where do we report on progress (or abysmal failure) ?

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMarion

We'll report back in May or I will call your ass up!

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. G.

April Anon - a sip? A taste? No problem. If they are 12+ a very occasional small glass of watered wine is perfectly acceptable I think. It is the forbidden that draws the rebellious in. Make it a non-event and it loses its magical power of "ALCOHOL".

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commentertrash

Can you guys believe Mrs G sent me a personal message, pinning me to the matt, saying I had no goal? On the one hand, I DO, and I mean it: express positivity! (example: "I wuv you Mrs G and thanks for challenging me to set a MORE concrete and clear goal!")
But, OK, what was I doing last night, up late? Winning an ebay auction :) Mother's day gifts!!!!! I WAS the only bidder!!!!! Thrilling. As you all know. But that is ENOUGH. I have spent my allowance.
GOAL: no ebaying for a month.
AND expressing positivity :)

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGary Edward Rith

We are moving to a new location at work. The new owners of the building are literally demolishing things around us as we pack up for the move. It's a bit of a shock to walk down a hallway and suddenly encounter a wrecking crew, especially when nobody from management bothers to let staff know that this will be happening.

Goal: Let go of my resentment about the move and how management is (mis)handling it.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commenter~annie

GOAL: I have sewing projects I really want to finish. Specifically, a superhero cape for my son. I made my daughter and two nieces each one, but boy child couldn't walk to well before now, so I didn't want to mess him up with a cape. I have his cut (Steelers Fabric!), but just need to make a logo (I agreed to husband's wish that it be the superman logo, but with a 'J' for his name) and put it all together. Since he started wearing his sister's, I feel it's now time!

My confession is that I'm totally unmotivated at work right now. I will latch onto a project that is interesting and bang it out awesomely, but I'm dragging on the day-to-day and uninteresting-but-must-be-done stuff. Hoping the newly returned sunshine will help, but I actually need to get out into it more often!

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterEmile

My goal by May 23rd is to begin actually going for a walk. As a part of my punishment for having a BMI over 30, my health care provider requires that I either join a Walking Program or Weight Watchers (or face the dreaded higher premiums). My choice was the walking program. I have to walk over 5,000 steps per day. Now, in the course of regular work and life, I can do that easy....but my goal is to actually strap on some shoes, an iPod and go for a real walk, taking an hour for myself that is good for me, and I do enjoy it........so, a one hour walk, five days a week. DH and I did the yard cleanup yesterday, so there is nothing hanging over my head preventing this (other than our crappy Michigan weather). Thanks for the kick in the butt, Mrs. G.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterTrudy

Goal: Finish knitting a scarf that I started knitting quite a long time ago. I stopped and knit three pair of socks. Now I have the pattern and yarn for a new and interesting project. I'm a great starter, but a poor finisher. I'm always excited about the "new". Finish the scarf first!!!

Darla

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDarla

Goal: Decide if I'm ready to move to the wilds of New York City or to stay in the comfort zone of what I know.

Sending hugs to all the Derfs who need one, and hoping everyone has a great weekend!

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterRegina

Confession - I discovered a game for my phone and it is silly and ridiculous. Game of War. Building a fortress and attacking and shit. I love it, but it is really distracting.

Goal - To reorganize, back up and generally clean up ALL my computer files. I have so many files. Appraisal files, appraisal photos, artwork files, photos, price lists, bios and resumes for two different personas of professional life. They will all get organized, backed up to the external and thumb drives and google drive. All of them. Doesn't that sound thrilling?

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermolly

My goal is to get my youngest son to graduate on June 3rd. He has totally dropped the ball in English this semester, I just got an e-mail that a huge report was not handed in last week and if he doesn't make it up he could fail and not graduate. As you can imagine it has not be very peaceful at our usually quiet home. Our older son took as many AP classes that were offered and loved school. This child, lets just say... total opposite. Now I'm questioning my parenting and what I could have done differently, I just can't understand why he has this attitude and lack of motivation.

Oh and I went to renew my health insurance and they said it was too late because my current insurance is non compliant and a new one would have to had been applied for by 3/31. My current insurance expires 4/30, I've talked to the insurance company no less that 6 times since the middle of February and I'm just finding this out!! So maybe no health insurance as of 5/1. I feel like I fell down a rabbits hole.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterLizzie

Confession: Pretty darned happy with life at the moment. Actually staying on top of washing dishes after dinner, which is a huge step for me. Very grown-up, yes? And cleaning up the clutter does wonders for my mental state. :)

Goal: I *will* clean out two closets and a front room. The Largest room, may I add, and it still has debris from moving in (squeak!) almost a year ago. HOW!? It WILL happen by May 23, or so help me...

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterLori K

I will finish converting the “office” to a spare bedroom so that when my young nephew arrives the first week of June for the summer he will have a comfortable place to sleep. Otherwise, he’ll be sleeping on a fold out couch in my husband’s “recording” room! I have been trying to get this done since February, but I just can’t figure out what to do with the stuff in there. Yard sale (which I dislike doing), donation (how do I get the big desk down the stairs), or trash (that’s a difficult one for me, grew up poor and I am always sure that someone will be happy to have my outdated clothes).

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterThe Other Kay

By May 23rd I'll be a little over halfway through my writing class. Last semester's class was more about technique and I wrote new pieces, but this class asks us to focus on a larger project, or something we have already in progress.

What it has done is made me focus on a project that has been kicking around in my head for a long time, and get my brain around it. I met a few weeks ago with a writer friend who gave me some tips about this, too, and I've been foot-dragging.

So my May 23rd goal is to show some progress, both in the writing and in the research for it. I'm not sure what a "measurable" goal is - maybe I should set myself a word-count or page-count goal? Mrs. G, you're a writer, what do you think?

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAunt Snow

I will set up my new sewing machine (which I bought over a year ago) and make a buttonhole.

I will update the damn FAFSA.

I will floss every day.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterSmalltown Me

Confession: my 5 year old hasn't been to the dentist yet because he is very energetic and inquisitive and I really don't want him around all those pointy instruments until he can control himself better. Also, I'm pretty sure he has a cavity and I don't want to get yelled at for it.

Goal: be completely moved out of our old house by either selling, throwing away, giving away or packing and taking all remaining belongings. The town is having garage sales the weekend of the 23rd so the selling part should be easy enough. I need to arrange for a dumpster so there's no setting anything aside to throw it away later - I can march my happy ass out to the dumpster and take care of it NOW.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterauntjone

I had major abdominal surgery in Jan. No stomach muscles or back muscles. Must get back to the gym and rebuild these muscles! Need to build up whole body. At 62 I am falling apart! My goal is to sit down with a personal trainer and map out what I need to do. Oh yes, and then actually do it!!!

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commentercarolyn

oh so many goals that could be set. so much to finish/start/or just think about that I get overwhelmed and nothing gets done. just one. walk at least 3 times a week during lunchtime at work. very doable, now just do it. maybe one home goal. clean up clutter in kitchen and bedroom before bookclub on May 9. doable as well.

confession. I have a friend, actually DH's longtime friend that I now call friend too, who pulled herself up from substance abuse and other abuse and is now half way to her doctorate in that field. She was arrested for embezzling over 60k from the workplace, a non-profit. HUGE unbelief to all of us. WTF was she thinking? How do I deal with this. "... be a friend, it'll all be ok, we love you anyway, yadayadayada", but, what was she thinking???? I feel like if we just say it's OK we love you anyway, it's just a pat on the hand and life goes on like nothing happened. I feel like it's a betrayal to all of us friends and I don't know yet how to get past this. I have no life skills to prepare me for something like this.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAngAK

Goal- Get my Square account set up and linked to my jewelry facebook page. Take some decent photos and actually SELL something.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterKelley

Goal & confession in one: didn't get into the program I had my heart set up, fell apart, and went into a two month funk. I've finally dug myself out and my goal is to enroll in alternate plan X (went through B, C, etc) my May 23rd. I'll be back in school in the fall!

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterilyanna

Goal: something for myself. Um. Anything not involving my two teens, one tween and two preschool children. I know! Not very specific. Okay, how about by May 23 I will take a photo jaunt by myself.

And confession: I am backstage mom/kid wrangler for a community theatre production and I do not feel the love for all of those kids. I am there to make sure some other sleep deprived theatre mom isn't harping on MY kids. Selfish but true.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMiri

I work 4 10 hour shifts in an nursing home.
Thurs through Sunday.
On Mondays I don't do anything, it's getting a little boring.
Sometimes I can't even get off the sofa, I am not hooked on T.V.
so thats not a problem, I just can't get motivated to do anything.
Sometimes not getting dressed until 4 in the afternoon.
Not wanting to go anyplace rather stay home.
I swear it's the weather, but maybe it's just me.
Taking a vow to change this rut and do something even if it's clean out my clothes closet.
Fuck A Duck.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterLinda C in Seattle

Gary actually helped me define my goal - surfing the waves. I have been so stressed and overworked that my employer has noticed me freaking out a few times and wants to move my desk to a quieter area - which is a nice thought, but I like where my desk is and don't want to displace my co-worker.

So my goal is to surf the waves and not get wiped out (or act out) when it gets crazy.

As for giving underage kids wine, etc. I learned to drink from my parents and we did the same with our kids - I think it is good parenting to discuss the do's and don'ts and allow kids to try it at home rather than "in the wild." All of them have appreciated it and have seen the benefit in comparison with their friends who went crazy when off at college, etc.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterBrightsideSusan

Goal: organize our finances and the accompanying piles of paperwork. I keep getting started but can't seem to finish. It's stupid and causes lots of problems.

Confession: my husband just bought a new truck and I'm tired of everything I want getting pushed to the back burner. I really need to start demanding more for myself.

OK, maybe that's two goals.

April 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterNacCrackHouse

Goals:

1. Finish an afghan I've been trying to do for months.
2. Clean out my bottom kitchen cabinets. I did the top ones months ago and never got around to the bottom ones.
3. Clean out my refrigerator.

April 26, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterKatie

Confession: I have been eating my feelings and stress. Thankfully the dog makes me get out for a walk or things would be much, much worse.

Goal: Get to bed before midnight. Make it a habit. That would fix so many things.
Goal: Use the dog to get out for a second walk. She would love it and it would help me with the stress and the not eating all the chocolate.

April 26, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkellyg

I am posting again. I think this blog is helping all of us realize that we all have similar problems. We are not alone. We all have family problems, many of us have aging parents and financial problems. It helps me to know others have clutter in their homes, messy kitchens etc. Thank you all for being honest and for being my sisters in the blog world! I keep all of you in my prayers.

April 26, 2014 | Unregistered Commentercarolyn

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